A Texas man, Leroy Greer, recently filed a lawsuit against 1-800-Flowers, claiming breach of contract. Greer had ordered flowers from the Internet florist for his mistress and specifically requested that no documentation be sent to his home address. But, unfortunately for him, 1-800-Flowers sent a note thanking him for his business, months later, and his wife intercepted it. She has since filed for divorce.
Alternately, in the Northeast, flowers aren't a problem, but tolls are. Records for electronic toll collection systems, like E-ZPass, are now being used to prove infidelity. Your husband may have said he was in Pennsylvania, but E-ZPass may prove he was really in New Jersey.
Sadly, stories like these are hardly uncommon. Almost 50% of people admit they have been unfaithful at some point in their lives, which means sooner or later many of us will have to deal with a wandering eye — ours or our lover's. But don't lose hope just yet. There are ways to avoid infidelity as well as repair a relationship already damaged by an affair. Read on for our expert advice:
When He Breaks Your Heart
Discovering that your husband is having an affair is a nightmare. Suddenly, your world is crumbling, but it doesn't have to. Maybe Texas Leroy's wife should divorce him (can you blame her?), but divorce isn't the only answer. Sometimes, you can rebuild your trust, and you can fall in love all over again:
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Practical steps toward forgiveness >>
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Preventing an Affair
Relationships will always ebb and flow, and inevitably, there will be moments when temptation beckons your partner. But if you're worried he might give in, you need to determine the root of you suspicion and communicate your fears to your man. Are these your issues left over from a previous relationship? Or is your lover really straying? Find out:
When you're paranoid he's going to have an affair>>
Once a cheater, always a cheater? >>
Sharing desires can help keep couples faithful >>
When You're the One Who's Tempted
Studies show that women are just as likely as men to cheat, which means you may have thought about it. First of all, don't feel guilty if you're having naughty thoughts about the UPS guy who delivers packages to your office. He's cute, and those brown shorts look really good on him! Instead, snag your hubby his own UPS uniform, and role play. But even if you have more than a harmless crush on another man and are on the brink of having an affair, you can still find alternatives to jumping into bed with that other man, whom you didn't promise to love, honor and cherish:
How dangerous are crushes? >>
When you want to cheat >>
Flirting can be okay >>
