Q

I am happily married and, with thanks to my husband, am learning new things about my sexual self. When my husband pleases me orally, I release a fluid of some kind when I am near to or having an orgasm. Sometimes there is quite a bit of it. Can you tell me what it is? I want to know what my body is doing and if I am normal! --iVillager ''S''


A

To begin with, let me assure you that you are indeed ''normal.'' What you describe here is a phenomenon known as ''female ejaculation,'' when a highly aroused woman experiences a sudden gushing of fluids from her urethra during intense sexual stimulation and orgasm. Typically, it occurs during manual massage of the G-spot area, yet may also occur during penile, oral or dildo stimulation of the vagina. To the uninitiated and uninformed, it can indeed be a bit disconcerting and even embarrassing. Remember, it's times like these when a humorous interpretation goes a long way toward easing awkward moments.

Indeed, some women have felt extremely self-conscious and mortified when the fluids suddenly and unexpectedly released, mistakenly thinking they had uncontrollably peed themselves during orgasm. But this is clearly not the case, as you and so many others have described. While still controversial in its exact origin and content, there can be no denying that many women absolutely do experience this natural, non-urine, fluid ejaculation during high sexual stimulation or orgasm. Consider yourself fortunate -- and continue to let loose and enjoy!