You are about to learn how to make your man incredibly happy in bed from head to toe, start to finish, and then some. The goal of this Love Lesson is to give you the skills, knowledge and inspiration to revive your sex life -- and boost your sex drive!

Step 2 is devoted to turning on your man. Yes, I know. Isn't that HIS job? Well, yes, if you consider that it is each person's own responsibility to become aroused, stay tuned in and reach his or her pleasure capacity. It sounds simple, but the truth is that when it comes to getting excited, everyone is different. When you truly understand each other's unique fantasies, you will truly enjoy your time together in bed -- trust me!

Discovering His Desires
One of the first steps in the sexual process of pleasing your man is the start up phase. Let's call this the beginning of male arousal. To become the sexual siren that you want to be -- and the one that he can't resist -- I suggest that you talk together about what turns him on. That way you'll really know what it takes for each of you to be ready for and excited about sex. For example, I counseled one couple whose ideas about foreplay differed -- he always wanted his partner to "talk dirty" to him while she always wanted him to give her a back massage. Until they could learn how to integrate their different arousal styles, things were rather rocky. But once they accepted the fact that each of them liked different forms of foreplay, they learned how to combine both of those techniques into their pattern. Now they often begin with a lovely backrub, say in the tub with candles to enhance the mood, and then when they get to the bedroom, she whispers sweet naughty things into his ready ears.