"Any extreme reaction at the beginning has to really be examined. You have to be able to take a step back and look at that. As delicious as it might seem, if it's someone you are attracted to, you are sort of welcoming that attention. A wise person would take a step back, look at it and think, 'This is coming from someplace else and I have to figure out what this is before I jump in.'"

I used to ask why men are such clones of each other when I should have taken responsibility for allowing myself to fall for the double dive at the beginning. It takes two to dive into a relationship. We always blame it on him. But if you're needy for a boyfriend, it's easy to ignore obvious patterns and enjoy the initial ride. When you work on controlling yourself, you won't jump in without thinking. Often when a guy rushed into something, he has a problem. David advises you to keep the brakes on as much as possible, no matter how much you'd love to dive into the goodies he offers: