Over 50 percent of today's married couples lived together before tying the knot, but does "testing the relationship" really ensure a better marriage in the long run? Moral views aside, evidence compiled by researchers suggests that cohabitation is a bad idea. "Living together before marriage may seem like a harmless or even a progressive family trend until one takes a careful look at the evidence," state experts David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead of the Rutgers University Marriage Project. "In fact, living together before marriage seems to increase the risk of divorcing." For more on their findings, see the articles below.
What's your opinion on couples living together? Would you do it despite the indications it could harm your relationship in the long run? Scroll down to share your thoughts with other iVillagers here.
875 member responses
What's your opinion on couples living together? Would you do it despite the indications it could harm your relationship in the long run? Scroll down to share your thoughts with other iVillagers here.
875 member responses
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6 years
We lived together for six years. I believe certain personalities are able to exist with eachother for long periods of time while some, more unbalanced lovers, are in love with the idea then, later, see reality more clearly after the expience. the paper part of marriage can creat pressure leading to divorce in either case. Monogomy is not instinctual to most humans so that must, for some, be achieved. I think either way about it can have a positive result however, true love must be present..where there is love there is hope.
--Posted by a.m.a., NC
We lived together for six years. I believe certain personalities are able to exist with eachother for long periods of time while some, more unbalanced lovers, are in love with the idea then, later, see reality more clearly after the expience. the paper part of marriage can creat pressure leading to divorce in either case. Monogomy is not instinctual to most humans so that must, for some, be achieved. I think either way about it can have a positive result however, true love must be present..where there is love there is hope.
--Posted by a.m.a., NC
wow . you guys are brilliant. lol
--Posted by anonymous
--Posted by anonymous
we livetogether but it is he's apt and he's always sideing get out to me and my kids.He not the dad.
--Posted by anonymous
--Posted by anonymous
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It depends...
I think that this decision is similar to all decisions that we must all make in our life. It depends on the person ( or in this case people). I think that if moving in together is more of a stepping stone instead of a "test run" then is is a smart idea. Also I think it's important for the couple to have dated at least 2 years and for moving in together be a step towards marriage instead of a "make or break" situation. moving it together should require full commitment from both parties or it is doomed to fail.
--Posted by anonymous
I think that this decision is similar to all decisions that we must all make in our life. It depends on the person ( or in this case people). I think that if moving in together is more of a stepping stone instead of a "test run" then is is a smart idea. Also I think it's important for the couple to have dated at least 2 years and for moving in together be a step towards marriage instead of a "make or break" situation. moving it together should require full commitment from both parties or it is doomed to fail.
--Posted by anonymous
Society slowly getting Poisoned
Living Together before marriage is implicitly an immoral lifestyle of living. If you does not possess capacity and talent to adjust with life partner in normal marriage, why the hell should you go for partnership in life. Just live as a BACHELOR OR SPINSTER. Life is a Challenge not a Revenge.
--Posted by Suresh
Living Together before marriage is implicitly an immoral lifestyle of living. If you does not possess capacity and talent to adjust with life partner in normal marriage, why the hell should you go for partnership in life. Just live as a BACHELOR OR SPINSTER. Life is a Challenge not a Revenge.
--Posted by Suresh
