Over 50 percent of today's married couples lived together before tying the knot, but does "testing the relationship" really ensure a better marriage in the long run? Moral views aside, evidence compiled by researchers suggests that cohabitation is a bad idea. "Living together before marriage may seem like a harmless or even a progressive family trend until one takes a careful look at the evidence," state experts David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead of the Rutgers University Marriage Project. "In fact, living together before marriage seems to increase the risk of divorcing." For more on their findings, see the articles below.
What's your opinion on couples living together? Would you do it despite the indications it could harm your relationship in the long run? Scroll down to share your thoughts with other iVillagers here.
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What's your opinion on couples living together? Would you do it despite the indications it could harm your relationship in the long run? Scroll down to share your thoughts with other iVillagers here.
884 member responses
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yes, i think you should
Why would living together after marriage make your relationship better? It may be that divorce rates are lower for couples that don't live together before marriage because they are more traditional in nature and don't believe in divorce so they just stay in bad relationships longer. The real question that should be studied is whether or not marriages are better for people who only cohabitate after marriage. I really don't see what the connection could be. I really think that relationships change dimension after you live together, so better find out if you like it before marriage.
--Posted by Megan, pittsburgh, PA
Why would living together after marriage make your relationship better? It may be that divorce rates are lower for couples that don't live together before marriage because they are more traditional in nature and don't believe in divorce so they just stay in bad relationships longer. The real question that should be studied is whether or not marriages are better for people who only cohabitate after marriage. I really don't see what the connection could be. I really think that relationships change dimension after you live together, so better find out if you like it before marriage.
--Posted by Megan, pittsburgh, PA
should couples live together before marriage?
i believe that in the old days itb would have been a NO!..but time has changed through out the years, and my answer is yes i do believe couples should live together so they can know what their getting themselves into before marriage.
--Posted by Natalie Salazar, West Covina, CA
i believe that in the old days itb would have been a NO!..but time has changed through out the years, and my answer is yes i do believe couples should live together so they can know what their getting themselves into before marriage.
--Posted by Natalie Salazar, West Covina, CA
Should you live together before you get married
Never, Not at all, because, Jehovah Hates this type of relationship and absolutely considered as an adultery and fornication.
--Posted by Deborah, Dhaka
Never, Not at all, because, Jehovah Hates this type of relationship and absolutely considered as an adultery and fornication.
--Posted by Deborah, Dhaka
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Should you live together before you get married
Never, Not at all, because, Jehovah Hate this type of relationship and absolutely considered as an adultery and fornication.
--Posted by Deborah, Dhaka
Never, Not at all, because, Jehovah Hate this type of relationship and absolutely considered as an adultery and fornication.
--Posted by Deborah, Dhaka
